Posts Tagged ‘ceremony’

Beachy Keen NJ Wedding!

Thursday, May 26th, 2011

I believe that I mentioned how much  I love being a wedding officiant, especially in New Jersey, where we have gorgeous beaches to provide the perfect backdrop for memorable ceremonies.   The beach is a perfect metaphor for marriage; shifting sands,  rolling waves, the ebb and flow of the tides…..ahhh…..it’s almost too easy to write about but it’s even more fun when I have a couple as cool as Jenn and Joe!

They are beach lovers and  animal lovers to the core, two of the many things that they  have in common, and their wedding reflected their passions in every detail that was so lovingly crafted. From their adorable  Starfish table cards  (this is mine, with a poodle!) to their shell-trimmed wedding cake  to the leis the presented to their parents during the ceremony, each touch was carefully planned.  And I know for a fact that they spent quite a few months covered with glue and glitter!

And what a ceremony it was! We talked about Jenn and Joe’s story, which included both comedy and tragedy. Theirs is a story of true soulmates, of two people who absolutely found the perfect partner.  We started with a great reading about dogs;

If a dog were your teacher, you would learn stuff like…

When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.

Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.

Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.

When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.

Let others know when they’ve invaded your territory.

Take naps, and stretch before rising.

Run, romp, and play daily.

Thrive on attention, and let people touch you.

Avoid biting when a simple growl will suffice.

On warm days, stop to lay on your back on the grass.

On truly hot days, drink lots of water and lay under a shady tree.

When you’re happy, dance around and wag your entire body.

No matter how often you’re scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout; run right back and make friends.

Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

Eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.

Be loyal.

Never pretend to be something you’re not.

If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.

When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle them gently. (author unknown)

and we ended with “The Legend of the Starfish”.

A man was walking along a beach when he saw a young boy. Along the shore were many starfish that had been washed up by the tide and were sure to die before the tide returned. The boy was walked slowly along the shore and occasionally reached down and tossed the beached starfish back into the ocean. The man, hoping to teach the boy a little lesson in common sense, walked up to the boy and said, “I have been watching what you are doing, son. You have a good heart, and I know you mean well, but do you realize how many beaches there are around here and how many starfish are dying on every beach every day. Do you really think that what you are doing is going to make a difference?” The boy looked up at the man, and then he looked down at a starfish by his feet. He picked up the starfish, and as he gently tossed it back into the ocean, he said, “It makes a difference to that one.”

“According to legend, starfish are ocean borne reflections of stars in the sky Symbolizing rebirth, starfish have a remarkable ability for regeneration. If a starfish is cut in half, two starfish will grow. What a sweet illustration of  equality and teamwork!  As  each of the limbs of the starfish work together for the benefit of the whole, so does each partner in a marriage thrive with the love and support of the whole.

And then, their guests raced to the edge of the surf and threw starfishes infused with their wishes for the couple  into the ocean, insuring many, many years of love and luck to Jenn and Joe!  It was an amazing celebration for a terrific couple!!

Happy Mothers’ Day AND Happy Wedding Day

Sunday, May 8th, 2011

May is one of my favorite months, especially for weddings. It’s spring!  It’s mothers’ day! It’s wedding season!  What better way to honor your moms than to include them in  your wedding ceremony. I love this little ceremony for several reasons. Your wedding day is a huge day for your moms and sometimes I feel like they get escorted down the aisle, eased into the seat and forgotten about. Your dad may walk you down the aisle, but I wanted something different and special for your moms.

Your moms will love it!  Your photographer will love it! (Great photo opp….)  Your officiant will love it! It’s just a perfect idea, especially if your wedding is near this holiday. (I’ve also included this when the wedding falls near grandparents’ day (the first Sunday after Labor Day; this year, it’s September 11th).

You would order two single roses from your florist; pink is ideal since it’s the color of gratitude and roses are the flower of love. At the appropriate time (usually right after we welcome the guests), I’d call them up to join us in the ceremony space. (If the moms are very, very shy or either of them is not able to walk comfortably, the couple can go to them at their seats in the front row.) You would hand them each a rose; hug, kiss, cry and this is what I would say:  they’ll love it!  Trust me!


“April  and  Bill have chosen to honor two special women today .  Flowers have a language all their own. In Victorian times, flowers were often used to express sentiments and feelings that were too precious to put into words. One of those sentiments is deep gratitude, and these single roses express that gratitude perfectly, if silently. April and Beau  are the individuals they are because of your guidance, love, and patience.

It is truly a sweet coincidence that this day of celebration comes just before Mothers’ day, a day that we all recognize the strength,  passion and grace with which  mothers shape the lives of their children. As they  enter into this marriage, creating their own family, they bring to each other the history and lifetime of the gifts given to them. Please accept these roses and know that your gift of time and care has made the difference in their lives. Thank you, with all our hearts.”rr

Branching out for your NJ Wedding!

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

You want to be AT the Jersey shore, but not necessarily ON the Jersey shore; I have the perfect place for you; Branches, in (appropriately enough) West Long Branch. My cool couple, Brigitte and Steve, had an unseasonably warm day for their pictures in the lovely garden, and then a short, sweet ceremony in the cozy ballroom.  Now, they met in marching band, all the way back in high school, so their processional was performed by a four piece  saxophone group! Vivaldi never sounded so hip!

The team at Branches was super; Chris, the Maitre’D had every favor in place and every polished glass poised for the champagne toast.  Cindy and Stacia gracefully calmed the pre-ceremony jitters and took care of every detail, from snacks for the bridal party to orchestrating their walk down the aisle.Maybe my favorite touch though was their table cards. Because ‘ Da Shore” had such a big part in the couple’s courtship, every table had a vintage, “Greetings from the Jersey shore” postcard to lead guests to their seats.

hot hot hot!

Friday, July 3rd, 2009

 It is! And your guests have traveled to be with you for this important day. What a nice touch to welcome them to the church, temple, field or backyard with a nice cold glass of something. At a recent wedding, there was an antique wooden wagon stocked with jars of iced tea, lemonade and water.  My friend Dawn, at Main Street Catering  sets up a beautiful table with giant glass jars of lemonade and iced tea, decorated with flowers and lemon leaves. (You might want to add a light sangria or punch. )  You could also ask your catering staff to pass a signature drink , maybe in your wedding color, as  your guests arrive.  You don’t want to get too involved with opening the bar or complicated refreshements, because it will be hard to get  your guests’ attention back for the real main event!  Your wedding ceremony!  (Now, I couldn’t let that one go, could I!)  Your thoughtfulness will be so appreciated!  (The beautiful lemonade bar photo is from a great planning site called Project Wedding, a site with a million great photos and ideas, and coincidentally, 15 recent reviews of yours truly ;-)